Sunday, May 24, 2009

How To Get My Ex back If He Wants More Space

Almost everyone has experienced a powerful relationship
in their life,when suddenly everything which seems so
perfectly is broken off because your boyfriend wants space.
There are a number of different reasons for why a boyfriend
may suddenly need space, including family problems,
insecurities, or a fear of commitment just to name a few.
Here are some tips for answering the age old "how to get
my ex back" question if your ex boyfriend needs more space.

- You are not going to want to lose your pride, or to allow
him to get the best of you - But clearly you are still in
love with him. It may be ideal to play a little bit hard to
get at first, in order to show him that yes, it was his loss
and not your own.

- If you are feeling like your ex boyfriend still has feelings
for you,then it may be ideal for you to strike up a conversation
with him. Keep communication to a minimum in order to keep the
level of drama to a minimum. Short text messages, brief phone
calls and online conversations in passing are all a great way
to remind him how much he wants to be a part of your life without
overwhelming him with your presence when he may actually want
and need space.

- Eventually he will begin to show significant interest in you
again if all goes well, and this will give you the chance to truly
begin to reminisce with him. Keep in mind that you should focus primarily
on all of the good memories associated with your relationship in the past.
While rekindling a relationship with your ex boyfriend, you are going to
want to stay away from the bad experiences and negative experiences in
case they conjure bad feelings and undo your hard work.

- If your boyfriend is not responding to your slow and subtle advances,
you need to take it for what it is. Either he just really is not interested
in you right now,or he really does just need space and you should give
it to him. But if on the other hand he seems to be interested in you more
than before, or is slowly warming up to you again, then you should continue
gradually advancing on him to rekindle the relationship.

- If your ex boyfriend is giving you the right signals, you can try to open
your heart up to him. Let him know how you feel, but avoid looking desperate
or needy in the process. If your ex is showing you that he is thinking about
rekindling things, then it would be healthy to be open with him. But if his
signals are pointing in the other direction, it may be wiser to step back
and let things happen more naturally.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the
initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these
aren't my original ideas. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of
how to get my true love back.
T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called
"The Magic Of Making Up". And you know, it worked like magic for us.
Now we are more in love than ever.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

The Magic Of Making Up

Love is what people always crave for. Be able to cherish love is the most crucial in order to be happy. Crisis in love is a normal thing to be happen. We need to know how to handle and take things for our own love benefit. Mend your love within your heart first, then you mend your relationship. Because everything starts in your inner world, the outer world is just a result of what goes inside you. You attracts what you focus on, and it will expand.

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

What Can I do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

Most people find themselves asking "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" following a breakup. They begin to start thinking and philosophizing about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them score their relationship back.

This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The first main strategy to answer the question about "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

The effect that strategies like this will have, is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life. And in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.

Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not simply beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional.

Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (don't over do it) and show her that you are doing fine without her. This will inspire her to really rethink things.

And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things too much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back". Just take things slow and play them cool and you should be fine.

Monday, May 11, 2009

What Can I Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

Are you feeling like everything you do pushes your ex away further? Is this describing your situation to a tee? Are you asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back" at every turn? Here are some tips that will greatly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.

Obviously right now you are serious about saving or rekindling your relationship, which is what led you to this article in the first place. But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be behaving in the wrong way, causing your ex to pull away naturally. It is human nature in general to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is completely pointless, and it will only make matters worse.

Are you calling your ex too much, constantly writing him e-mails or text messaging him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing these things, stop! If you are asking yourself " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", then you need to stop doing these things right now.

So What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back? Follow this strategy instead.

You are going to need to take a completely fresh approach. Begin by breaking contact off for a while, doing your own thing. During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your old ways.

During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about you, since you will no longer be pursuing him. You may become mysterious to him in some ways, because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you, which is not possible when you are smothering him.

You must remember that the key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you are wondering " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", now you should have a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.

Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering him. Make yourself appear mysterious and he will be reminded why he loved you in the first place. Play hard to get (don't over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out on top. And then you will stop asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back"

Sunday, May 10, 2009

When Do You Know If He's Right?

by Amy Waterman, Relationship Expert

How many dates does it take to make a decision about whether or not you want to pursue a relationship?

I've always been curious about this aspect of dating, because very few women have comparable experiences. With some dates, the knowledge is immediate and instinctual. With other dates, months may pass before the endearing nature of his laugh, his smile, his character becomes apparent.

I know that I am a slow warmer. I am wary when I meet a man for the first time. I am dubious of his intentions. I read innuendo where none was intended. It takes me time to let down my guard.

It's not because I'm naturally a suspicious person. It's because, in the realm of relationships, I've been burned enough by bad apples.

I'm representative of most women my age. By one's thirties, one has experienced enough bad relationships to associate the dualities of pain and pleasure with a man. One is never sure how much to trust.

But this isn't natural.

Twenty years ago, I loved all boys. I played with them innocently and full-heartedly. Boys were my playmates, my cohorts in crime, and my teammates for games. I could think no evil of boys. Their strange preferences for dirt, body odor, cars, and constrictive underpants were simply idiosyncrasies of fascinating playmates.

As I grew older, I realized that boys could no longer be trusted to play innocently with me. My first two male friends in college were cool--a jazz musician and an Apple Mac gamer--until I realized they "liked" me. I quickly dissolved the friendships. I wanted the innocent companionship and friendship of my childhood male schoolmates. I didn't realize that maturing would erase that possibility completely.

When do we women lose our innocence with men? And can we ever regain it?

In my line of work, one great danger is to take relationships and attraction too seriously. Many women feel that the potential of the man they are seeing is a matter of life or death. Instead of having fun playing with him (like a child with a favorite playmate), they evaluate his potential as a father. They situate any future relationship squarely in the realm of adulthood. The rest of their lives is at stake.

My flatmate tells me that the definition of compatibility as a couple is when his or her issues are compatible with your issues.

That's a pretty adult view of the situation.

I have a different view. I believe that you know a man is compatible with you if he likes to play the same "games" you like to play. Maybe you like to tease in a certain way; maybe there's a certain game in bed that you like to play. Maybe you like to go out; maybe you like to mountain bike. If he likes to enjoy himself and have fun and laugh in the same ways as you, you've found a potential soulmate.

We all knew back in childhood that there were some children that we could play with for ages, and there were others who liked games that didn't interest us. It's the same with men and women.

Yet in our attempt to find a suitable man, we often forget to look for one that we have fun with. One that makes the kinds of jokes we find funny (and laughs at our jokes). One that is up for any crazy scheme we propose. One that will make our life happy and light-hearted, not just important and successful.

Life is serious and dry enough. We don't need relationships to replicate those patterns.

Relationships should be a haven from life's dry seriousness. You should be able to feel like a child with your partner, unembarrassed at the silliest of games. Together, you will be responsible for forming a life, raising children, making a home ... but all this will only be enjoyable if you can laugh together.

I have been out on dates with many successful, intense, highly attractive men. I admire them, appreciate them, and learn much from conversations with them. These are the men who will shape the world. No woman can fail to respond to their power.

But as for myself ... in my little, humble world ... I envision my ideal future as one in which there is always laughter, in which I can return to childhood with my spouse and play those games that I didn't get to play enough before I grew "old." I want us to be able to chase one another around the room, have pillow fights, and wrestle. I want us to tease one another, share silly jokes, and dissolve the seriousness of a working day with the magical spell of humor.

So, I suppose, the answer to my question is that it takes exactly the number of dates you need to decide whether you've found a companion you can play with. Some kids find a game they can play with each other right off the bat. Other kids end up trying lopsided games that one but not the other likes until they either find a game they like in common or give up.

Trust your child-heart's instinct. Ask yourself ... if you were a kid, would you play with this guy? Or would he be one of those kids who tries to control the game, or change the rules, or cheat?

A partner who makes life more fun is a treasure indeed,

All the best in life and love,

Amy Waterman
Host of "How to Be Irresistible to Men"
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Amy Waterman is a professional writer specializing in attraction, dating, and relationships. She has extensive experience in helping women find love with her insightful and powerful secrets into attracting love and making relationships work. She is currently the host of the latest edition of "How To Be Irresistible To Men," which is part of the 000Relationships Network.

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Saturday, May 9, 2009

The 3 Biggest Obstacles To Getting Back Together

Wanna know what’s keeping you from getting back together with your ex?

Chances are it is one of the top 3 reasons couples do not get back together.

1. Fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of being hurt. Fear of what your ex will say. Fear of putting yourself out there “on the line.” Fear of the unknown — what COULD happen!

It’s enough to hinder you to the point of inaction.

But the fact remains, if you don’t “put yourself out there” sometimes, you won’t get anywhere. No risk, no reward.

Don’t be afraid. As long as you avoid the mistakes from the Biggest Breakup Mistakes series, only good things can happen!

2. Pride. This runs neck and neck with fear as a top reason couples are unable to get back together.

Let’s face it, at the end of a relationship, things are said and done which are often regrettable.

Our feelings are hurt. Our egos are damaged. And in order to recover and cope with the breakup, we cling to our pride.

Add to that our basic human desire to be “right.”

We desperately want to believe that we are in the right, and our ex is in the wrong.

It’s our way of telling ourselves that we are ok. There’s nothing wrong with this. We are ok and it’s good that we think well of ourselves during tough times like this.

But often our pride prevents us from moving int he right direction with our ex’s.

It prevents us from saying how we REALLY feel. Or it prevents us from really tackling the core reason why you broke up in the first place.

Frankly, we would be best served by humbling ourselves and opening ourselves up to our special someone. If your ex is indeed your true love, you should be able to demonstrate humility, let go of your pride and be completely open and honest.

If you are can overcome your pride, then chances are you can overlook past mistakes and forgive your ex. Or maybe it will give you the strength to ask for forgiveness yourself if it is needed. Or it will help you to tackle the real issues that are keeping you apart.

3. Inability to overcome obstacles.

Many times we allow an obstacle to get in the way of reconciling. It’s just too easy to say “oh well, I tried.” I know because I’ve done it!

But in the end, there’s a solution for every obstacle. That’s right, every one of them.

Despite what the gurus would have you believe, there are no solutions that work 100% of the time, simply because we all possess free will to do as we please. If anyone tells you otherwise, run (don’t walk) in the other direction!

That said, there are things we can do to overcome all obstacles. For every situation, there is a solution.

Let me say that again….

For every situation, there is a solution.

I have seen miracles in my own relationships, and now I have seen it play out successfully for thousands around the world who have learned the do’s and dont’s from this newsletter and Win Back Love.

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How To Hold The Keys To Your Partner's Heart and Mind

By Cucan Pemo

Would you like to possess the power to be able to penetrate into your partner's thoughts and know exactly what he or she wants? Imagine having such jedi-like powers at your fingertips.

Well, you can! If you will learn how to hold the keys to your partner's heart and mind and make him yours forever.

Kenneth Goode is an outstanding figure in advertising and selling and I do recommend his books if you are interested to find out more about him and his teachings.

When I read about his eight insights about people, I can still remember that I'm beaming with excitement as this might hold the formula to understand what your partner will do.

Although Kenneth Goode is speaking to an audience that is supposedly to be interested in selling and advertising (to people), his wisdom and insights about people can help us to understand what people do the things they do, and of course "people" include yourself and your mate.

His eight insights about people are:

(1) Follow a habit until it hurts
(2) Accept his beliefs ready-made and stick to them until the cows come home.
(3) Follows his leaders, eyes shut, mouth open.
(4) Work hard to establish superiority in the eyes of his equals.
(5) Find his greatest interest in his own emotional kicks.
(6) Yield to suggestion when properly flattered.
(7) Love low prices and dislike economy.
(8) Glorify the past and discount the future.

Think about how you can use Kenneth Goode's insights to influence your partner. Remember, you cannot change your partner into someone you like to see; you cannot force your another person to become that which you want him or her to become.

Here's an invaluable tip for you. If you are want to influence your partner; if you want to persuade him to do something or to see your point, don't say it out loud or even point it out to him. Try, instead, to make him think that that idea comes from his own.

Why? People always "accept his beliefs ready-made and stick to them until the cows come home".

Most people hate to be told what to do. Most people hate to know that their ideas are wrong. In fact, people hate it even more when you point it out to them.

So, if you want to attract a new mate, make it seem like he or she is the one who wants to be with you!

If you want to bring back a lost love, your first step is to make sure you don't make it seem like you want him or her back. Depending on your relationship or marriage circumstance, most people hate to be told that they should come back to your side. To them, it just spells more trouble.

Make yourself indispensable. If you have a hot temper, find ways to solve this problem. If you are too clingy, find the solutions to do away with your clingy-ness. If you know the mistakes you have done, correct them.

Your partner will find his or her way back to you all without your asking when they "know" that you are someone they would want to spend their life with afterall.

Kenneth Goode's insights have been very helpful to me so far. I now understand that there are certain things we cannot change about people, because that is the way people are! If you are always finding yourself eveloping in self-pity in a failing relationship, or if you are always finding yourself wanting your partner to behave in certain ways, I hope you understand these insights and apply them to your life and to your relationship because they can liberate you. Many times, it is not your fault afterall.

Wrtie these eight insights down and stick them on your desk where you can see them daily.

I will write more about how these insights can be applied to any types of relationship as and when I have more tips to share with you on this site.

Master these insights, and you can be well on your way to hold the keys to your partner's heart and mind; or rather, anyone's heart and mind.

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What to Do with a Man who Has Commitment Phobia and How You Can Spot One!

~ Cucan Pemo

There are some men who make women feel very lovable and desirable. They lavish love and gifts on them, and make them feel very special. But when it comes to marriage, they back out. They have a great fear of getting tied to a single woman for life. They run away from the very idea of marriage. Their relationships never have fairytale endings; instead they are littered with heartbreaks.

These men suffer from commitment phobia, a fear of committing themselves to one single woman. However, they don’t hesitate to play the loving game. They go out of their way to make their women feel special. They woo them with all the passion that they can command. But they cool off once the woman talks of marriage.

How to spot a commitment phobe

For any woman it is important to spot commitment phobes – that is men who suffer from commitment phobia -- early in the relationship. This is the only way they can keep their feet firmly on the ground, and not get swept away by the charm offensive launched by such men.

Fortunately, the commitment phobes are very predictable and display several common traits. These are:

1. They have been involved in several relationships in the past, but all of them have been

brief. The reason,they will charmingly tell you, is that they are yet to come across a woman

of their dreams, someone with whom they can have a lifelong relationship. You are that

woman, they will tell you. It is for you to spot the lie or swallow it hook, line and sinker.

2. They would show much more interest in you that you do in them They will follow you,

beseech you, please you, woo you – try every trick in the trade to win you over. They will

even drop hints of long and stable relationships; they will talk of “we” and “us” not “I” and


3. They will make you feel very special. They will shower you with love and affection. They will

make you feel their world will come to an end if you spurn them or misunderstand them.

You will find it impossibleto resist them, unless you realize what is happening.

However, this ardent wooing will be limited to the first phase of the relationship. The relationship will take a different turn the moment you surrender It is not that such men treat women as trophies to be won, and then displayed in their personal museums; but they are driven by contradictory feelings. They neither want to give up a woman nor want to commit themselves to her. It is a psychological disorder. But it can have serious effects both on the relationship, and on you.

You will not realize what has happened to your relationship. The same man, who could not live without you for a moment, will start looking for excuses to stay away from you. You will no longer be the shining light of their lives. The talk of matrimony will freeze them. Your tears may make them unhappy but it will not move them. It wouldn’t be long before you are left only with memories and tears; the commitment phobe would have moved forward to another woman.

Why do they behave like this

You need not search for reasons for the souring of the relationship. You should also not blame yourself for what has happened. You must realize that commitment phobia is an emotional disorder, and you have become a victim of a person suffering from such a disorder.

According to psychologists, the commitment phobes behave like this because they suffer from certain beliefs about relationships. This may happen because:

  1. As a sensitive child, a commitment phobe’s world was torn by a bitter divorce between his parents. He grew up with a feeling that there can be no permanent relationship between a man and a woman. Such a relationship can only bring pain in the long run.
  2. Some commitment phobes cannot reconcile to the death of their father or mother or forget the sadness and grief that overcame their parents when one of them died. They therefore grow up with the feeling of not to enter into permanent relationships – relationships that can bring pain on account of the death of a loved one.
  3. Some commitment phobes may have been betrayed by those whom they loved. This would have created a mindset of never to give in to a woman again.

How to deal with a commitment phobe

You must realize that you have very few chances of winning a commitment phobe. You must therefore play hard to get. You must refuse to get into bed with him for very often this signals the end of a relationship. Let him feel desperate; let him step up his wooing. But don’t give in.

It is important that you continue to live your own life. You should not allow a commitment phobe to set the pace of your life. You should continue dating other men and act as an independent woman who can live her life on her own. Never make the mistake of playing second fiddle to such men or switching to what-a-wife-would-do mode.

You should not drum excuses for his behavior, or try to convince yourself that he is right and you are wrong. In your mind, you should not become his advocate. You must look at his actions, not his words. Words are easy; they can be lavished with freedom. But it is hard to match them with action.

If possible, you should convince him to see a psychologist. There is always a chance that a psychologist may be able to remove the fears that a commitment phobe has about marital relationships. But this cannot happen in an instant. You have to be patient, aand you have to see how the commitment phobe takes your suggestion or the counseling.

Finally, don’t grieve if your relationship breaks down. Take it in your stride. Treat it as a fun fling that was bound to end this way. In this way, you are always in control of yourself and your life; and you learn the importance of "responsibility" towards all decisions you are going to make in life and relationships!

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Thinking of Tying The Knot? 5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together


Did you know that love does NOT conquer all?

You see, often people get married with the idea
that their “chemistry” or undying love for each
other will keep them together forever.

However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in
divorce these days, it’s obvious that this isn’t
the case. Therefore, it pays to know a few little
secrets before getting married.

Here are 5 tips that help keep couples together
long after tying the knot:


Over the years, people often drift apart or
relationships and marriages become stale because
couples fail to do new and special things together.

That's why going on new and refreshing dates is so
important. In fact, there is something about
“dating” that creates a sense of magic in a
relationship and can even bring relationships out
of a rut.

While on a date, you also put more effort into your
appearance, have more uninterrupted time to
communicate on a deeper level and are naturally
drawn closer together.

Stuck for ideas? Spend the day at the aquarium,
zoo, museum, carnival, bookstore, beach or park.


It’s a well-documented statistic that couples who
have dated for a year or longer before marriage
have a significantly lower rate of divorce than
those who married after a short dating period.

A year of dating gives time for many emotions to
surface and many character traits to be discovered.
You may adore someone in the spring, but despise
him or her in the winter.

Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on
the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.


Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners
tend to stop praising each other because they
'assume' their partner already knows what they're

When in reality, a day should never go by without
you praising your partner. Compliment them on their
cooking, reaffirm that they're the greatest person
in the world or tell them they’re a wonderful role
model. If you want to be loved and romanced by your
sweetheart, love and romance them first. When
they're feeling loved, it is much easier to love in

Are you a super supporter of what your mate does
and says? So do you cheer them on and praise them
constantly? Or do they constantly hear boos or


Couples with the most problems are often the ones
that say, "I just don't understand him/her."

So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you about
your mate's profession or the degree they are
pursuing? Do you know anything about his or her
family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful
conversation about her cross-stitch hobby or his
interest in rugby? If you are a man, do you fully
understand what women experience during PMS or

You don't need to be identical, but make an effort
to learn about the things that interest your
partner in life and you'll grow closer as a result.


Does your partner want kids? Do you both want
careers? Do they have a history of spending their
way into debt? How religous they are?

In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of
marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to
ask each other the right questions BEFORE they get

I guess people think they'll be able to change
their spouses after marriage and everything will be
better. Wrong. If you fail to sit down and discuss
finances, religion, sex, housing, your future, and
other topics in great detail, you could end up with
nothing but argument after argument for the rest of
your days.

In the end, if you both have completely different
views, desires and goals in life, there’s no
guarantee that chemistry or "I love you’s" will
help you stay together.

Make it your utmost priority to understand each
other 'inside-out' BEFORE you take that walk down
the aisle.

About the author:

Michael Webb is the author of “1000 Questions For
the most comprehensive book of questions
that all couples should ask before getting married.
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children & raising them, household work,
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5 Dating Mistakes That Women Make With Men

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By Michael Webb

Great men are hard to find. So when you find one,
don’t ruin your chances by making these deadly
mistakes. Remember, attractive men have dated a lot
of women so they know what’s going on. The result?
They’ll disappear before you realize you’ve done
anything wrong.

Here are 5 things that many women do that blow
their chances with their boyfriend, and how to avoid

Mistake #1: Sharing your feelings with him too

Men love their freedom and independence ­ no
mysteries there! So when you announce that you love
him, it often sets off a trigger that you might be
one of those “clingy types.” Remember that the
early stages of dating should always remain casual.

Only after you get to know each other really well
should you pursue anything further. It’s also worth
mentioning that you can’t logically convince
someone to fall in love with you. Falling in love
is a process that happens outside the conscious
mind ­ remember that. Which brings me to…

Mistake #2: Trying to push it too far too soon

It’s natural to wonder about the nature of your
relationship, “Does he want more? Or is this just a
fling?” But remember, if you start talking about
marriage after only 12 months, you could ruin your
chances to take things further. And if you don’t
live together, cooking dinner or doing his laundry
isn’t a good idea.

A nice meal once in a while is okay, but don’t make it
a regular thing. Yes, it’s true, many men are scared of
commitment; but just because they don’t want it now,
doesn’t mean they don’t want to settle down. They
just need time.

Mistake #3: Being too available

You might think this is playing a mind game or
being manipulative, but putting your best side
forward is also manipulative.

Why? Because it’s done to get a desirable outcome.
This is simply a reminder to be who you were before
you met the man and continue to be that person,
rather than use trickery.

Remember that your busy, interesting and
fun life only has so much time for him, no matter
how much you like him. And remember, men love a
challenge, so this actually works in your favor.

Mistake #4: Not being yourself

Men love confident women with a strong sense of
self-worth. Unfortunately, women often try to guess
how the man wants them to act and try to
accommodate his mold, which leaves very little room
for your own personality to shine. (And yes, men do
this too.) In other words, they love her strength.
It’s very attractive.

Mistake #5: Appealing to his sexual side too much

Believe it or not, it’s NOT make-up, dyed hair,
pretty clothes or even nice shoes that attract men,
not into a successful long-term relationships
anyway! While “looks” is the obvious factor that
seems to get an instant response from men,
long-term success comes with finding a man who
admires and respects you regardless of your
exterior. If your man only likes you for your
looks, then he doesn’t really love you.

So there you have it. The 5 big mistakes that women
make while they’re dating men. Avoid these mistakes
and you’ll dramatically increase the chances of
succeeding with him.

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Friday, May 8, 2009

“If Only I Could Understand Men….”

Men always say they can’t understand women, and that women are so complicated. Well, for many women, it is the exact opposite. Most would give anything to understand what makes men “tick.” Even though women want to know what he’s thinking, men are often reluctant to share what is in their hearts. What’s a woman to do?

Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.

1) Men are more sensitive than women. While that might sound silly, the truth is that men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman. Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a man hears he should just “let his feelings out,” what he translates that into is this, “If I let my feelings out, I might not be able to control them.”

2) Men hate fighting. For men, conflict is not simply resolving a problem. Fighting, to a man, means one has to win and the other needs to be totally defeated. Men often prefer conflict that is non-emotional because it is less threatening to them. Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.

3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is just as important as finding one who is beautiful.

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Ya Allah
Seandainya telah engkau catatkan
Dia milikku tercipta buatku
Satukanlah hatinya dengan hatiku
Titipkanlah kebahagiaan antara kami
Agar kemesraan itu abadi

Dan Ya Allah Ya Tuhanku Yang Maha Mengasihi
Seiringkanlah kami melayari bahtera hidup ini
Ketepian yang sejahtera dan abadi

Tetapi Ya Allah
Seandainya telah engkau takdirkan
Dia bukan milikku
Bawalah dia jauh dari pandanganku
Luputkanlah dia dari ingatanku Ya Allah
Dan peliharalah aku dari kekecewaan
Serta Ya Allah Ya Tuhanku Yang Maha Mengerti
Berikanlah aku kekuatan
Melontar bayangannya jauh ke dada langit
Hilang bersama senja nan merah
Agar aku boleh bahagia
Walaupun tanpa bersama dengannya

Dan Ya Allah yang tercinta
Gantikanlah yang telah hilang
Tumbuhkanlah kembali yang telah patah
Walaupun tidak sama dengan dirinya

Ya Allah Ya Tuhanku
Pasrahkanlah aku dengan takdirMu
Sesungguhnya apa yang telah Engkau takdirkan
Adalah yang terbaik buatku
Kerana Engkau Maha Mengetahui
Segala yang terbaik buat hambaMu ini

Ya Allah
Cukuplah Engkau sahaja yang menjadi pemeliharaku
Di dunia dan di Akhirat
Dengarlah rintihan dari hambaMu yang daif ini
Jangan Engkau biar aku sendirian
Di dunia ini mahupun di Akhirat
Menjurus aku ke arah kemaksiatan dan kemungkaran
Maka kurniakanlah aku seorang pasangan yang beriman
Supaya aku dan dia sama-sama dapat membina kesejahteraan hidup
Ke jalan yang Engkau redhai
dan kurniakanlah padaku keturunan yang soleh




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Erti Cinta Sejati

Erti cinta sejati ni sebenarnya tak jelas. Seperti air yang mengalir tanpa penghujung yang pasti.
Itulah cinta sejati. Tak siapa tahu dan kita tak boleh wujudkan dengan sendiri cinta sejati tu, sebaliknya cinta sejati yang mencari siapa yang layak menerimanya.

Jadi kalau kita berusaha sedaya upaya mencari pasangan hidup, kita tak boleh patah semangat kalau target kita nak cari cinta sejati, sebab cinta sejati tu akan datang dengan sendiri kat mana pun kita berada seiring usaha yang kita lakukan.

Pernah tak cuba travel jauh dengan harapan nak jumpe somebody, tapi end up balik rumah sendiri juga. Atau pun dengar cerita tentang pelarian cinta. Seseorang yang cuba melarikan diri daripada menghadapi cintanya, menyeberang lautan pun telah dilakukan dengan tujuan dia dapat melupakan dan menghindari cintanya. Tapi akhirnya semakin kuat usaha yang dilakukan untuk menghindar, semakin dia tidak dapat lari dari cintanya. Tetap disitu dan masih disitu. Entah mengapa? Persoalan yang tiada jawapan.

Sebenarnya yang dinamakan jodoh tu, tak ke mana. Ditakdirkan Allah waktu jodohnya sampai,
nak kahwin.. kahwin la juga walaupun di debat atau dibantah. Tapi kalau bukan jodoh, sayang macam mana pun, bercinta la bagai nak rak..pisah juga. Walaupun dah nikah, kalau yang namanya jodoh tak panjang, bercerai juga. Jadi walaupun kita telah bernikah mungkin pasangan kita tu masih belum jodoh kita yang sesungguhnya.Begitulah kehidupan, samada kita suka atau tidak, yang telah ditentukan berlaku akan tetap berlaku.